Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

Here are some brief answers to common questions that we are asked. They are split into three main categories: Pastoral (for pastors and churches); Personal (for those with personal experience of same-sex attractions); and Theological (looking at the biblical position).

Pastoral (6)

Christians need to appreciate that many non-Christians will believe that their biblical stance on this issue is ‘immoral’ because it appears to deny people love and happiness. Most people don’t think casual sex is healthy, but that monogamous relationships offer joy and fulfilment.

Therefore we need to be honest about the cost of being a Christian as well as the joy and peace through a relationship with our Creator. We need to question and often challenge if the actions of many Christian campaigners is what Jesus would do.

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We need to look more positively at singleness and relationships, rather than conforming to a world that says, “You need a sexual relationship in order to be happy and fulfilled.” The church is often giving the same message but replacing ‘sexual relationship’ with ‘marriage’.

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In some cultures, there have been times when homosexual activity has been seen as fashionable or convenient. However, for the vast majority of people attracted to others of the same sex, these attractions are not a choice. The attractions often bring a burden of shame for the individual and opposition/prejudice from others.

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True Freedom Trust (TfT) is aware that Reparative and other therapies aimed at eliminating or reducing unwanted same-sex attractions are attracting controversy.  We are aware that some feel such therapy has harmed them, but also aware that some have felt benefit from such therapies in various ways, including lasting reduction in same-sex feelings.  TfT believes people should have the right to choose and explore ways in which they can be helped and our understanding is that no reliably robust scientific studies are available to prove claims one way or another.

TfT is not a practitioner of Reparative Therapy in any form.  We do not offer therapy or counselling. TfT does have a directory of counsellors who are sympathetic to our Basis . Our main requirement for counsellors is that they respect and work with (rather than against) the client's faith.

TfT is primarily a Bible teaching ministry and we believe in biblical change.  When we come into a relationship with Christ, we should expect change.  Indeed, change is inevitable for a disciple of Christ. The biblical change experience, however, is not about a change of sexual orientation (the bible does not discuss sexual orientation).  Biblical change is about a change of heart (Ezek 36:26, Psalm 51:10, 2 Cor 5:17) and about change in behaviour (Rom 6:17-18, and the rest of Romans 6; 1 John 2:1, 1 John 3:6).  TfT is a community where we explore together how biblical change impacts our sexual identity. See also our FAQ "Is it possible for a gay person to become straight?"

This excellent video by ERLC reflects our views on Reparative Therapy

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Of course, this question assumes that married couples are happy. In reality, there are plenty of miserable married people out there!
In the garden, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone”. Adam was truly alone as he was the only human being in existence, not just that he did not have a wife. God provided a companion for Adam and they gave birth to the human race. It is not good for man to be in a state of chronic loneliness, but God never said, “It is not good for a man to be unmarried”. 1 Corinthians 7:1 says that it is, “good to live a celibate life” (literally “good for a man not to touch a woman”). The first Adam was married, but the second Adam, Jesus, was not. Neither was Daniel, Elijah, Elisha, Jeremiah, Anna, John the Baptist or Paul.
Marriage is God's primary means of providing human companionship but it is not the only way. Singles can invest time in deep friendships and invest quality time with God without family distractions. Jesus, Paul and Daniel had long times of prayer and also invested time with their companions and in serving their community. Single people can have more leisure time and don't have to endure domestic strife, although sometimes they do miss that deep intimacy of marriage. There are benefits both ways and life is what we make it.
For Christians with same-sex attraction, both singleness and heterosexual marriage are good options to pursue and there is nothing wrong with desiring (and not desiring) marriage. If we feel we have been pressured into marriage or consigned into staying single then we can become resentful. If we see our status as our choice, and God's best, then we can be content. By delighting ourselves in the Lord, our happiness will be in God's will for us. We are unique, and God knows what is best for us. True joy comes from walking with Jesus and is a fruit of the Spirit (Gal 5:22). The Bible talks about a, “joy unspeakable full of glory” (1 Peter 1:8) in the midst of trials and troubles. A disobedient believer who complains to God over his single status will not know happiness (the author speaks from experience). The old chorus goes, “There is no other way to be happy in Jesus than to trust and obey”. This deepest joy can be experienced by all faithful believers, married or single.

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Clearly, love and commitment are virtues and so it is tempting to see a loving, committed same-sex partnership as a godly relationship, particularly when compared against unloving or unfaithful partnerships of opposite-sex couples. However, the Bible is clear that a same-sex partnership is against God's will and the Bible lists no exceptions based on the quality of the partnership. A sinful act committed in a way that demonstrates other virtues does not make the sinful act less sinful. As an analogy, the famous bank robbers Bonnie & Clyde were famous for their love for one another, but that love in no way mitigates what they did wrong.

The argument is often put forward that the early church knew nothing of loving, committed relationships other than marriages between men and women, and therefore the Bible is essentially silent on the issue of modern-day same-sex partnerships. However, in 1 Corinthians 5:1-2 a man in the Corinthian church is in a relationship with his father's wife, which is forbidden in Leviticus 18:8. There is no discussion of whether the relationship is loving and committed or not. Paul is clear to the other Christians: "Let him who has done this be removed from among you." (v2).

Another argument is that the homosexuality outlawed in the Bible was all either abusive (eg between men and boys) or part of pagan rituals, and so the biblical prohibition of homosexual practice was about the abuse or paganism rather than condemning committed homosexual relationships between consenting adults. However, this fails to consider the widespread adult-adult homosexual relationships in Greek and Roman cultures in New Testament times, of which the writers would have been well aware. Corinth in New Testament times was a Roman colony on the Greek mainland, but when Paul wrote to the church there he reminded them to avoid sinful behaviours, including homosexual sex. In 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, he also lists idolatry separately from homosexual behaviour, making it clear that homosexual sex was distinct from idol worship.

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Personal (9)

Living as a Christian with homosexual desires is not easy, but the testimony of many within TfT is that is certainly possible and amazingly can have real rewards in terms of spiritual and character growth. Sexual feelings are often really expressing a desire for love that goes deeper than the sexual attractions. However, God has created us ‘not to be alone’ and therefore we each need to work how He can help us to meet this need through Godly relationships, based on our value as God's children.

Some Christians (eg Joshua Gonnerman and Wesley Hill) identify as being 'gay' or a 'celibate gay Christian' to describe their sexual attractions. Others (eg Daniel Mattson) avoid using the word 'gay', as it is often used to describe a whole identity, and prefer the longer (but arguably more accurate) description as a 'Christian who has same-sex attractions'. We recommend a book The End of Sexual Identity that looks at this issue in more depth.

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Nowhere in the bible is there a promise of a temptation-free life. Jesus challenges His followers to take up their crosses and die daily and Romans 8:12-13 challenges us to continue to live from the Spirit of God rather than our sinful nature. Struggles of one sort or another are most likely therefore to remain a “thorn in the flesh” to us (2 Corinthians 12:7). As we yield to Christ and learn to overcome, temptations could well diminish, and we can never rule out a sovereign act of God. In this world, however, freedoms generally need fighting for and an important lesson from Judges 3:2 is to learn battle experience: it makes us stronger.

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“All things are possible”, but perhaps it is better to ask “How likely is it?”, and even perhaps “How necessary is it?” Many gay people desire to be straight, but is just being straight, a godly goal? For the Christian exchanging one set of sexual temptations for another set, is not really much progress in terms of living a life that gives glory to God. We must at least look beyond the world’s view of sexuality and ask what does God require of me? Perhaps too easily we assume God requires heterosexuality – but scripture puts it differently and talks about faithfulness to God in restraining sexual behaviour outside of marriage. All of us are asked to behave within sexual boundaries. The bible does not seem to mention orientation or attractions.

If marriage is not in God’s plan for us, does sexual orientation matter too much? And if marriage is in God’s plan for us, there are many within TfT who can testify that He is able to create a faithful and loving covenant commitment including the sexual element for us towards our spouse, without the need for a general sexual attraction to the opposite sex. Our real need is to be attracted to the one person, not to the many. Perhaps this question challenges the modern assumptions about the labels we attach to our sexuality and asks us to focus less on what we perceive our needs to be and more on the true essentials of living a holy life. It is certainly possibly to live in a happy and fulfilling marriage and yet continue to battle with same sex attraction. Heterosexuality is not a pre-requisite to marriage.

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Are people born gay, or if not then what factors might influence the development of sexual attractions and cause some to be same-sex attraction?

The so-called 'nature / nurture' debate tends to be less polarised than it used to be and the consensus amongst respected experts in this field is that there are likely to be a number of different influencing factors. It's not been scientifically proven that people are 'born gay' (indeed evidence from identical twin studies suggests that people's sexual attractions are not hard-wired by DNA). There is, however, growing acceptance that biological, including genetic, factors may well play a part in an individual developing same-sex attractions.

Other possible factors include environmental influences (including upbringing, childhood experiences) and relational influences (within the family and / or peer group). Some people stress that the quality of an individual's relationship with their same-sex parent can be a major contributing factor. It has to be said, however, that a causal link has never been scientifically proven and many people who experience same-sex attraction have very strong and healthy relationships with their same-sex parent.

Our view at TfT is that it's best not to be too dogmatic on this issue and to accept that different factors can influence different people in different ways. In a theological sense, we believe that same-sex sexual attractions were never part of God's original plan for creation and are, therefore, (whatever the cause or causes) part of our fallen human nature.

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Can a Christian struggling with same-sex attraction live a happy and fulfilled life?

When it comes to questions of ‘happiness’ we need to ensure our views are shaped by God’s word rather than our culture. Sex is not essential for a fulfilled life. Our Saviour was single and celibate and the Apostle Paul was also single. The lie of our culture, that you need sex or a romantic relationship to be ‘happy’, is untrue. Being unmarried is also celebrated in the Bible. The FAQ ‘Can a single person be as happy as a married person?’ touches on this.

To deny ourselves and make Jesus king over our lives is the only thing that can enable us to live a truly happy and fulfilled life. Jesus teaches: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it. What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit their very self?” (Luke 9:23-25). True life and fulfilment comes by obeying God’s word rather than pursuing our own desires. We need to make Jesus Lord over every area of our lives, including our sex lives.

Christians are not to focus on superficial, temporary happiness. Persecuted Christians around the world may not be experiencing what many will call ‘happiness’. For believers the promise is of joy that is not based on our earthly circumstances. The Apostle Paul commands Christians to “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say rejoice” (Phillipians 4:4). If we are in Christ, whatever our situation may be, we have every reason to rejoice. No matter how tough it might be to say no to a same-sex relationship these “…light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all” (2 Corinthians 4:17). 

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We have a detailed article on this topic, which considers 'whether', 'how' and 'with whom' to share this struggle. There are risks of being judged or rejected when you share, but if you consider prayerfully and wisely who to share with and how to do it, you can certainly minimise these risks and open yourself to the possibility of support and affirmation. Often issues of shame and isolation can accompany same-sex attraction, and opening this issue up to selected people who are important to you can really help heal the shame and reduce the isolation.

It is the experience of many of our members that struggling alone with same-sex attraction is neither realistic nor effective. It is important to build a support network of people who are willing to offer you love, accountability, encouragement and community. However, sharing your experience of same-sex attraction can be a challenge for the other person as well as for you, particularly if they have known you a long time, and so it is helpful to think through how it might be from their perspective and how you can help them understand the issue in a compassionate and biblical way.

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Pornography is a huge issue in modern society for both men and women, with trends such as availability of the internet, increasing isolation, and the use of sexual images in advertising all putting pressure on us to think lustfully about others. However, Jesus is clear (Matthew 5:27-30) that lusting after another person is as wrong as committing adultery with him/her.

Pornography, like other addictive behaviours, thrives where a person has the opportunity to look at images in isolation. So making yourself more accountable can be one element of the solution, perhaps by using filtering/blocking/accountability software or by permanently moving your computer into a shared room with the screen facing outwards. However, for freedom from pornography to last you need to love someone more than you love the images on the computer screen. This might be by investing more in your relationships (particularly if you are married), but ultimately by finding deep satisfaction in your relationship with God.

Setting Captives Free offer free online courses such as The Way of Purity (specifically for pornography) and Door of Hope (focusing on homosexuality), where you work through Bible passages with an online mentor. These courses can be helpful if you are prepared to be wholehearted about breaking free from pornography.

Recommended books for further reading include Tim Chester's book Captured by a Better Vision (£8.99), Gerald Coates' book Sexual Healing (£6.99), and Rachel Coyle's booklet Help! She's Struggling with Pornography (£2): we stock all of these books for sale. You could also look at our Personal Internet Healthcheck article to reflect on your overall use of the internet.

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The easy answer is that the Bible is silent on this issue.  However, the act of masturbation usually involves one or more of the following:

  • Lust – Jesus condemns this (Matthew 5:28) (Prov 6:25) (1 Thes 4:3-5)
  • Addiction – Are we being mastered by Christ or by someone/thing else? (Rom 6:19-22) (1 Cor 6:12 & 19)
  • Self–centredness – This is the root of all sin  (Gal 5:16) (Mark 14:36) (1 Peter 4:1-2)
  • Done in secret - Is masturbation something we feel comfortable doing in the light? (1 John 1:6) 

If we consider carefully what the Bible teaches in these areas, I think we would have to conclude that masturbation is something that Christians would be better off to avoid.  Galatians 5:22-23 teaches that the fruit of the Spirit includes self-control.  Perhaps this is a part of life where we have an opportunity to put that into practice?

Practically, the first step for a Christian might be to ask the Holy Spirit why you masturbate and to reflect on the Bible references above. Once you have identified what drives your need to masturbate, here are some practical ideas for breaking free:

  • Lust - Intentionally move your mind on to more wholesome things (Phil 4:8) and allow your mind to be renewed (Rom 12:2)
  • Addiction - Remember that Jesus has set Christians free (Rom 6:19-22), so don't settle for slavery to a comfort behaviour. Perhaps reflect on what you are comforting with this behaviour
  • Self-centredness - We all struggle with this. What are you willing to sacrifice day by day (Luke 9:23)?
  • Done in secret - Try finding an accountability partner with whom you can check in on this (James 5:16)

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Christians should pray and seek prayer about any issue.  God is interested in everything about us and asks us to “cast our cares upon Him” (1 Peter 5:7).  As Creator of the Universe, He is able to do all things.  Above all though, His purpose for us is that we become more Christ-like.  However His answers to our prayers will always be designed to enable us to grow into Christ-like maturity.

So prayer can often be more about changing our reactions and responses to situations than it is about changing the circumstances in which we find ourselves.  For this reason, we find God answering our prayers in His way rather than the way we ask or would like.

Overcoming a difficulty or situation does not necessarily mean it is removed.  Jesus did not have the Cross removed from Him, but He did triumph over it.  The victory that we seek and that God gives to us rarely means we are no longer tempted or need to endure difficulty, but he can and does enable us to enter into His overcoming power.

This is also true in the area of deliverance.  We know that the enemy is at the heart of all sin, but the experience of the majority of people struggling with sexual issues is that “deliverance ministry” alone fails to deal with the issue.  Where people have been involved in occult practice, this can sometimes be helpful, but nowhere in scripture do we have an example of a sexual sin issue being “cured” by exorcism.  Whilst testimonies exist of such events, they are rare and as such are unreliable as a methodology.  It is generally much more fruitful to gain a deeper understanding of the ways in which sin (ours and/or that of others) has worked in our lives and to work on forgiveness, repentance and renunciation as a means to overcoming sexual addictions and behaviours.

One of the key functions of the Holy Spirit is to be our counsellor (John 14:26).  He is the one who truly knows us as no one else.  We can seek His help directly, or through wise counsel of prayer partners who are also seeking Him on our behalf.

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Why would a God of love make someone gay and then deny them the right to be in a loving, committed same-sex relationship?

This question assumes that God made someone gay. So the first point is that it's not been proven that people are born with same-sex attractions (see FAQ "What causes same-sex attraction?"). Secondly, the question ignores the biblical truth that we live in a fallen world where every one of us has desires that God calls us to deny. In fact, Jesus calls every one of his followers to deny some things that they would like to do (Matt 16:24) and we are all called to give up anything that becomes more important to us than God (eg Matt 19:16-22).

Another assumption in the question is that everyone has a "right" to a sexual relationship. While this is unquestionably a value of our culture, it is not a biblical value: indeed, the single celibate life is highly praised in the Bible as a fulfilling life (see 1 Cor 7:8,32) and wonderfully modelled in the lives of Jesus and Paul.

It also leads to wider questions. If "loving and committed" are the only criteria we apply to sexual relationships, then what about polygamous marriages or polyamorous relationships? Why bother with an age of consent?

In addition, rather than just treating this as an abstract question, we need to remember that God deals with us each personally. For example, God allowed a man called Job in the Bible to be denied everything he possessed (family, fortune and health). For Job, this was a test to see whether he would follow God even through the extreme difficulties he endured. After God responded to Job's complaints, Job recognised that he was not worthy to judge God's actions, even though God had not justified what had happened to Job (see Job 40:1-5).

Ultimately, though, this comes down to a matter of whether we are willing to allow God to set the boundaries for our lives, even when they don't make sense to us. If we are only willing to obey God's word when we agree with it, then we are not really submitting to Him as God at all - more just recruiting Him as a spiritual adviser.

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This does not need to be about choosing between God and your friend.

When it comes to the gay issue, the simplest way to think about the church's attitude is to consider three views: 

  1. "The world thinks gay relationships are OK, so the church should too."
  2. "Being gay is a sin therefore Christians should condemn gay people."
  3. "The Bible teaches that gay relationships are sinful. However, people who identify themselves as gay are very much loved by God and should be encouraged to get to know Him better - just like anyone else."

These three views are discussed further below:

View 1:  "The world thinks gay relationships are OK, so the church should too."

Many Christians are beginning it take this view.  

TfT does not think this view reflects what the Bible teaches.  What the world does is down to the world and the main job of the Church is to present the Gospel to the world and to pray that they will turn to Christ (Matthew 28:19).  A Christian who makes Jesus Lord of his/her life should follow the teaching in the Bible (James 1:22) and understand that God regards gay lifestyles and relationships as sinful. 

View 2:  "Being gay is a sin therefore Christians should condemn gay people."

Many gay people think this is what all Christians think.   They are wrong.  Some Christians have thought this in the past, and some still do, but they are becoming fewer and fewer.  Even Jesus, himself sexually pure, refused to condemn the woman who was found to be sexually immoral (John 8:11).  Many of these Christians are at last realising this view is wrong and not Christ-like at all and are moving to View 1 or View 3. 

View 3:  "The Bible teaches that gay relationships are sinful. However, people who identify themselves as gay are very much loved by God and should be encouraged to get to know Him better - just like anyone else."

Little is known about why gay feelings develop in people (despite a wide variety of claims).  But just because we feel something, or are attracted to someone, does not mean that we are compelled to put that into action.  We have choices and we have responsibilities to ourselves and to others.  All of us, in many ways, and at many times, restrain our feelings and make good choices about what we do with our feelings and impulses. 

Many people who feel same-sex attractions decide to adopt "gay" as their identity.  It may not feel like they are choosing, but in reality they are making a choice to publically declare they "are gay" and to live a lifestyle that reflects that.  However, there are many people (especially many Christians) who choose to identify as "in Christ" (2 Cor 5:17), and give their identity as a Christian a higher priority than any sexual attractions they may feel.  They choose to follow God's Word rather than sexual feelings.  This is not easy, but Jesus never said the Christian life would be easy.  In fact He said, "if anyone would follow me he must deny himself and take up his cross" (Mark 8:34).  If we believe that gay relationships are sinful, no matter what we feel, or whatever the cost, we should not participate in them. 

At TfT, we hold to View 3, which has a biblical balance between truth and love (Ephesians 4:15).

How to respond

You have choices about how you decide to respond to your friend as a Christian.  Your friend also has choices how about he/she wants to live her life and to identify him/herself.  You may not agree with your friend's choices and he/she may not agree with yours.  If there is genuine love and respect between you, there is no reason for that disagreement to end your friendship.  You can continue to honour God and keep your friend.

However, true friendship does not mean an unquestioning affirmation of all your friend's choices. Jesus showed that he could be the best of friends while being unafraid to challenge lovingly those closest to him when appropriate (eg Matthew 16:23, Mark 14:37-41, Luke 18:15-16).

Others may judge you for associating with "sinners", but then you would be following the example of Jesus (eg Matthew 11:19), the "friend of sinners".

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Christians are sometimes accused of picking and choosing certain Old Testament laws and saying that these apply to believers today, whilst conveniently overlooking other Old Testament laws and saying they no longer apply. So, for example, Leviticus rules out eating shellfish and the wearing of clothes made of mixed fibres and yet most Christians have no problems of conscience when it comes to eating a prawn cocktail or wearing a polycotton shirt! Why, then, do we still hold firm to the levitical prohibitions on certain types of sexual relationships, including same-sex practice?

Jesus says in the Sermon on the Mount 'I've not come to abolish (the law or the prophets) but to fulfil them' (Matthew 5:17). We believe, therefore, that the Old Testament should be interpreted in the light of the teachings of Jesus and his Apostles in the New Testament. If Jesus has come to fulfil or to complete the Old Testament then we have to consider which Old Testament laws Jesus has fulfilled and how.

On this basis we know that Christians are not required to perform the animal sacrifices prescribed in the Old Testament in order to be 'clean' before God. Why? Well because Jesus has fulfilled all the sacrificial laws by his own death on the cross as a once for all sacrifice. So the writer of Hebrews tells us that 'Christ died once for all time' (Hebrews 9:28).

We also know that Christians are free now to eat any foods, including pork and shellfish. Why? Because in Mark 7:14-23 Jesus explains that it's things that come out of our hearts that make us 'unclean' (impure) in God's eyes, not the things that we eat. And in saying this 'he declared all foods clean' (Mark 7:19).

Interestingly in that same passage in Mark's gospel Jesus refers to sexual immorality as one of the things that does come from within our hearts and makes us unclean. Nowhere in the New Testament are we told that Jesus has now declared all sexual practices and sexual relationships as being clean in God's sight. On the contrary, the teachings of Jesus and his Apostles back up the Old Testament's consistent assertion that all sex that takes place outside of heterosexual marriage is considered by God as sexual immorality.

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The Bible allows for disagreements on certain issues, so in Romans 14 , for example, Paul speaks of 'disputable matters' and calls on his readers to be convinced in their own minds (Romans 14:5). There are, however, other truths which are non-negotiable - these are sometimes called 'gospel issues', i.e. significant matters upon which Christians can't simply agree to disagree because they impact our understanding of the gospel and, therefore, our salvation. The question is, into which category does same-sex practice fall?

In 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Paul makes it clear that same-sex practice is one mark of unrighteousness and warns that those who consistently and continuously live in the kinds of ways listed in that passage (i.e. with no evidence of repentance) won't inherit the kingdom of God. There are also other Bible passages which warn of the dangers of sexual immorality and strongly rebuke false teachers who lead people into sexual immorality (e.g. Jude 4, Revelation 2:20-22).

In light of these passages, and the Genesis 2:24 principle that the only God-given place for love and attraction to express themselves sexually is in a heteroesexual marriage between one man and one woman, we believe that sexual immorality is not a secondary issue over which Christians can simply agree to disagree. 

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The Bible is silent about homosexual orientation, and there are only a handful of biblical references which clearly prohibit homosexual practice. Sadly the church and many Christians have tended to elevate homosexual practise into an imaginary 'premier league' of sins, whereas the Bible simply speaks of it as just one expression amongst many of our fallen, sinful human nature. The emphasis throughout the Bible is on ruling out any and all sexual practice which takes place outside of an exclusive heterosexual marriage between one man and one woman.

The key biblical reference is Genesis 2:24, which speaks of heterosexual marriage as being a re-uniting of man and woman in a 'one-flesh' emotional and sexual relationship; this verse is reinforced by Jesus and the Apostle Paul in the New Testament (e.g. Matthew 19:5-6 and Ephesians 5:31-32). Jesus is shown in the gospels as reaching out in mercy and compassion to those who have strayed sexually from God's ways, and gently urging them to repentance (e.g. John 4 and John 8).

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We're living in a fallen world, and every one of us is born into this world with an imperfect sinful nature. Whilst it's true that God has 'knit me together in my mother's womb' (Psalm 139:13), the Psalmist also makes it clear that 'surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me' (Psalm 51:5). An inevitable consequence of living in a fallen world with a sinful nature is that we will all desire and long for things, which are clearly prohibited by God in the Bible. Some people will struggle with anger, others with envy, still others with hatred, bitterness, jealousy, slander, or a desire to steal, or commit adultery, or to rebel against their parents. Most people will struggle to one degree or another with lust; for the majority it will be lust over people of the opposite sex, but for some it will be lust over people of the same sex - the Bible simply calls it lust.

The gospel of Jesus Christ redeems (rescues) us from the power and consequences of our sinful natures and begins to transform us, so that increasingly, step by step, we desire and are empowered to live lives which conform to God's pattern for living in the Bible. It's worth noting that very often 'gay feelings' are actually masking a legitimate, unfulfilled need for a right kind of same-sex intimacy, affection, affirmation and acceptance.

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